“This wildly varies from person to person,” says Judith Sills, Ph D, a Philadelphia-based psychologist and author of Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You've Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted.
Getting into a relationship and expecting a person to understand this strange dichotomy often seems too much to ask.
I have been pretty lucky though; I’ve met some truly amazing women, even if at the time I didn’t realize just how special they were. And I know I was too busy overthinking and questioning my choices.
For some people, that happens before they move out.
Others are still emotionally married after the divorce is final.” Dena Roché started dating while waiting for her divorce papers to come through.
“It helped, because I got to see what 'normal' looked like,” Roché says.