I believe that you will find like-minded members on this forum for whom social anxiety has been a problem in forming and maintaining dating/romantic relationships with the opposite sex.While dating issues may be somewhat different for men (like the mail-order Russian bride thing you mention), lack of self-confidence, the inability to communicate well and present oneself in a positive light, and the gut-level fear of meeting new people which may include panic attacks, especially in a dating situation, are all feelings that many of us have either experienced in the past, or deal with currently."It's getting someone else to say no to me which is difficult for me.
While most people still meet in person, online dating has become more acceptable in recent years.
And for introverts, it might provide the entrée to meeting their future partner without the angst that comes with walking up to complete strangers and starting a conversation.
There are dating sites devoted to particular religious groups, like Christian Mingle or JDate, for example, as well as sites that cater to gay and lesbian daters. This removes a lot of the ambiguity that you face when you meet an interesting person at a work event or a party. Because of the ease and relative anonymity of online dating sites, we may take more risk reaching out to people we would not approach in person.
And even though men generally contact women more than vice versa on these sites, research has shown that a sizable minority of women do reach out to men they find desirable online, suggesting that these sites allow some women to overcome traditional gender norms that cast them in a passive role of waiting to be approached (Scharlott & Christ, 1995). Shy or socially anxious individuals often have difficulty forming and maintaining close relationships (Alden & Taylor, 2004; Davila & Beck, 2002).
Are there any guys out there with words of advice or hope? If out there think they have issues with assertiveness?