I am writing this because of the good response from my empowerment article. Invalidation is defined simply as rejection, ignoring, mocking, judging, diminishing someone's feelings. If you are very sick in the bedroom and your husband or family does not come in for 8 hours to check on you in your bedroom, that is invalidation. If you leave a voice message on the answer machine or text and the other person doesn't finish listening to the message or doesn't return the call if appropriate, that is invalidation.Today I am speaking of the silent abuse: INVALIDATION. Women who are under this colorless veil of silent abuse will often awaken in the morning depressed. If they ask everyone in the room what they would like to drink but they don't ask you, that is invalidation.
This is true for me – growing up, I was a sensitive kid and I cried easily.
But instead of feeling supported in those moments, I was told that I was too sensitive, that I needed to stop crying, that I shouldn’t be upset.
It’s everywhere – and sometimes so subtle you don’t even realize it’s happening.
Invalidation is so common in our society that you’ve probably inadvertently done it to others – and to yourself.
I didn’t know that the only food I’d be able to keep down for the first four months of pregnancy was Kraft macaroni and cheese.