Now that she feels secure in her job, she is ready to make a life change. Her problem is that she has no idea how to go about finding a mate.
There are many idiosyncrasies of the romantic process in which INTJs may, or may not, be willing to participate.
Typically most people, even guys, enjoy the emotional aspects of love. Attraction can get you into a lot of trouble, trouble that rational INTJs would rather avoid.
Since she graduated, though, she's been on very few dates.
She has been so busy making her career that she hasn't had time for men.
The fact that you feel something doesn't make it true.