I personally know people who have gotten together while one party was separated, and in one case the wife refused to sign so they had to wait for it to lapse and got married as soon as it did a few years later, and in the other instances where it worked out, there was no faffing about with the divorce, Future Faking etc.Well at this point, the guy realizes that you really like him, he has you, and he’s no longer worried that he could lose you to another guy.
Each situation is different but what you can say with a high degree of certainty is that someone who’s just fallen out of their marriage, who’s still in reconciliation negotiations, who’s still very influenced by their spouse, and who has been separated for a long time ‘just because’, is going to bring pain into your life.
Same goes for someone who’s not over their divorce and has beliefs that affect their ability to be committed.
I’ve had a “casual” thing going with a guy for 6 months, mostly sexual.
Two months ago, I told him I couldn’t do the casual thing anymore and since then things have been heading downhill fast.
I asked for some space to get my head around things and at first he left me alone and then he called and called and eventually I caved. I don’t want to rain on the parade of separated folk everywhere but there is a reason why they’re ‘separated’ – it’s because they’re not divorced and are still married, and that in itself adds a complicating factor to any new relationship they get involved in.