I found it frustrating – but really, I was feeling frustration on HER behalf. She’s the type of client I’d be friends with in real life. Like Tanya – and my wife – she was trying to be the cool girl, but she took it too far. this probably means that he’s a) dating other people and isn’t sure whether I’m “the one” OR b) he’s just not that into me and using me for now.” This doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy. I was the one who was making the effort to see her more. He’ll know that his string of good luck has come to an end. When the relationship is growing – like it was for me in 2007 – you may just have a moment like this: One night, when we were eating Chinese food and watching TV, I turned to my future-bride-to-be and said, “I think you’re my girlfriend.” She said, with a coy smile, “I think I am.” It was that simple.
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Or I date perfectly nice boys for too long simply because there isn't anything exactly wrong with them. If a date goes well on Friday night, I'll spend the weekend pondering how long the morning commute from his place might take, or contemplating where, say, my dresser will fit in his apartment.
When a colleague told me about Volume Dating—a term her ex-husband coined to mean, essentially, cramming many dates into a short period of time to widen the suitor pool and relieve the pressure on the one big intrigue—it gave me pause.
And her frustration is what spurred me to write today’s post. You imply that you should get rid of the guys that don’t call regularly and make it obvious that they want to date and pursue a relationship and yet in the book you mention that you didn’t take your wife on a proper date for the first 4 weeks and how great she was that when you did call she was nice and said yes to whatever you proposed doing…and you ended up married….which is why women put up with flaky guys and “bad behavior”, holding out hope that it will change and turn into something serious. Or do you move on to the next guy because this one isn’t making much of an effort? But if Tanya is finding this grey area to be a bit too grey, then I have to acknowledge that perhaps I can do a better job of explaining it. So why does a man only call or text you once a week to make plans? If he expresses no interest in escalating the intensity of the relationship… So don’t worry about how much you like him, how strong your feelings are, or anything like that. Did they “see you” once a week for six months and suddenly declare their love? Potential boyfriends act like potential boyfriends. So give a guy 6-8 weeks to figure out his feelings, if necessary.
For some people the 4 weeks turns into 4 months without them noticing and by then they’re in that pattern…and the behavior becomes acceptable yet unfulfilling and it’s too late to change it because you’ve been the “nice”, undemanding girl the whole time. Why is a man perfectly content only seeing you once every two weeks? Just evaluate your man on the effort he’s making for you. And if you don’t get the sense that the relationship is growing, the talk is brief and emotionless: “Hey Adam, it’s been fun getting to know you, but I get the sense that we’re not on the same page.
What if I could stop obsessing on one person—fueling ever more elaborate fantasies of who he be— and instead take a hint from the men I date, who seem to have this "I contain multitudes" thing figured out?